Several times over the last several months, I’ve heard many of these stories. The poor bride who really wants to do everything themselves, who doesn’t realize that there are wedding pro’s who can assist them and take some of the craziness & stress away. So she on her own or with her mom; the True DIY bride tries her best to put together her dream wedding together. Doing hours and hours of research, running all over town meeting with different vendors, trying to understand what the fine print in the contracts mean, if they even read it. Crying in the middle of the night or nearly having a nervous break-down is no way to live, especially if it’s for months on end. It really makes my heart hurt for them. Now these brides are helping their friends or helping their children to plan their wedding.
Here are some of the stories from these brides so you can learn from their mistakes. Our first bride got married 20 years ago. Granted at the time, there were not a lot of wedding professionals who could help her, but it is because of the brides that lived in this era that wedding planners and professionals came about. Now granted this is when personalized weddings started to emerge and the cookie cutter wedding of a reception in the church fellowship hall with punch, cookies and mints really went to bank burner and brides wanted to have a wedding reception that showcased their personality.
Our first DIY bride, Sarah, wanted to have her dream wedding, a church ceremony followed by a lavish dance party. The couple didn’t have a ton of cash to work with, but wanted something fabulous that they could call their own and be unique to them. Then as what typically happens, good meaning family steps in to help and take a guess as to what happens next. If you guessed tears and long nights of arguing, you guessed right. Sarah and her finance had 200 people at their wedding. The ceremony was in a beautiful church with sixteen attendants total between the couple, parents, grandparents and cousins that all needed to be in pictures. Just trying to wrangle those that needed to be in the pictures was a chore all in itself and instead of being able to relax, the bride, Sarah was having to run all over the church to gather those who were to be in the pictures, and if they didn’t stick around, she had to go track them down again. The pictures after the ceremony took almost three hours and she was already tired and over her wedding before the reception even started.
Then it was time for the reception, the flowers on the tables we’re want she expected, the cake was on the wrong table, guests were seated in the head tables, the DJ wasn’t able to keep the attention of the guests who were more than ready to leave when she finally got there. Before the end of her wedding day, she was in tears again, because her wedding day was ruined. This can still happen when you’re only looking at the bottom line and not paying attention to the quality of the vendors and professionals that you’re hiring today.
Then she got her photo’s back from the photographer three months after her wedding, she hated every single one. There’s only one wedding photo displayed in their house to this day and she hides it behind other photo’s on the piano in their formal living room. It was when she got the photo’s back she discovered that it was the 2nd wedding he had ever done. He had no experience with angles, shadows, lighting techniques and nearly everyone in every picture…it was as if he tried to make everyone look as bad as he possibly could.
She said that since they wanted ALL the BELLS and WHISTLES for their wedding so they hired everyone who came in as inexpensively as possible and it backfired. Not just backfired, but literally made her wedding day a bitter memory. Her exact words, I wish that I had the foresight to hire an outside Day Of Coordinator it would have made my life and my families lives so much easier.
Our next bride, actually worked in the wedding industry, planning other peoples wedding for them, thinking that 3 years and close to 100 weddings already planned for others I thought that I could do my entire wedding, including the day of myself, but being young, not having much money to be able to spend and impressionable, she allowed family to step in and help. OMG. That’s the only way to describe what happens next. Her fiancé gave her three months to plan the enti